Doctors tell me I’m hormonal or menopausal. Should I be looking elsewhere for help?
I am a 57-year-old lesbian and I have no sex drive. These are hard words to write, but my wife and I have not been intimate in years. She loves me and I do love her, but I suspect that over the years she got tired of initiating, and me either acquiescing out of obligation or turning her down. I want to be normal but don’t feel as if I am. Doctors dismiss me as either hormonal or menopausal. What should I do? What type of specialist can help me?
People living with such sadness and quiet desperation about their sexual functioning or lack of it should never be dismissed. Unfortunately, I often hear that they are. You deserve to be helped, so seek a well-qualified, knowledgable sex therapist or practitioner of psychosexual medicine.
Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a US-based psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
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