I personally think forgiveness is overrated. And you can’t let go of resentment as if it were a balloon – it takes a lot of work
I’m 43 and father to a wonderful daughter, whom I co-parent. I live abroad now but am British-born. My parents were abusive, and this left me with PTSD; I no longer have contact and am happy not to be part of that toxic dynamic. I’ve done the work, given myself a shot at my life, and am a pretty good parent.
My ebullient nature was squashed by the dysfunction and violence I experienced when young. Substance misuse and suicide attempts followed and, while I was quite bright and talented, I would create opportunities then sabotage them. It wasn’t until I was 32 that I found a therapist who was able to help.
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