Ask yourself whether this is a person you want in your life, writes advice columnist Eleanor Gordon-Smith, and be prepared for the possibility of disappointment
Should I make contact with my father, whom I have never met, who left my mother before I was born? He has never denied paternity. He has never offered anything whatsoever by way of support to either me or my mother, who is now dead. I have a half sister and half brother (via him) whom I have also never met.
I attempted my only contact 10 years ago. His response was “What would we each get out of it?” and I am not paraphrasing. He emailed six months later with a one-line apology. I made no further contact after that. I am middle-aged. He is in his 80s.
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