Let yourself feel the sad bits, writes Eleanor Gordon-Smith, and maybe put your credit card in the freezer
I have just moved across the country to take a fantastic job. I’m in my mid-30s and have been studying and working precarious jobs my entire adult life, so I feel incredibly relieved and happy to get this opportunity. However, I’m sad to move away from my family. I tell myself that I’m quite fortunate to get a job that’s only a three-hour flight away (a lot of people in my field need to relocate to other countries and continents to find work). Do you have any advice for me for grappling with the sadness I feel?
I have a friend who put her debit card in the freezer when she moved to America. She was so wretchedly homesick that at the start of every week she wanted to buy a flight home, and she put her card in a block of ice as a way of stopping herself unless she was really sure. If she still felt she couldn’t take it by Wednesday, she’d let herself chip out the card and go home. Then Wednesday would come and she’d feel a little better, like maybe she could make it one more week. This went on for a year. Now she’s married and couldn’t think of living anywhere else – but she got to that place one Wednesday at a time.
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